Step father of the groom speech

 

I know for sure you might be wondering about how to write a heartfelt father of the groom wedding speech like he did.

 

Well, you can make the writing process more manageable by breaking it down into three parts:

• Introduction or opening remarks
• The Body
• The Conclusion

 

First, let’s look at how to write a great introduction that will hook in your listeners. Here’s an example from the speech above.

 

Here you go:

‘’ Hello, good evening and welcome everyone!

For those of you who don’t know me, my name is Stephen and I am Mark’s proud dad and best man.

It gives Barbara and me great joy to see the smiling faces of all the friends and family who have come from near and far to share Andrew and Amanda's special day.  Thank you all so much for coming.  When Austin asked me to be his best man…’’

 

My comments/suggestions: The introduction is the easiest part to write because it basically comprises of a short self-introduction and expression of gratitude to certain individuals like:

 

 

• The mother of the groom. If she’s deceased, you may pay a special tribute to her if she played a key role in your son’s upbringing.

• Your own relatives and loved ones

• Your friends, neighbors, the groom’s siblings, etc.

• Don’t forget to acknowledge the bride’s parents and say something sincere about them.

• You also have to thank the wedding guests for coming from far and near to grace the occasion.

 

Action Tip: Using those pointers or example as a guide, can you jot down the names of the people you would like to give a special shout out to?

 

Have you done just that? Ok, let’s move on to another aspect of the opening remarks.

 

Your introductory remarks should capture the attention of the wedding guests from the very beginning and put them in the mood for the remainder of your presentation.

 

There are several ways of doing this and I want to share with you some proven tips to help you write a very engaging intro so you can win the love and admiration of your audience.

 

First, if you are lucky to be your son’s best man, then you can proudly let everyone know about this and how you felt when he asked you to be his right hand man.

 

Second, if the wedding attendees don’t know you are the groom’s step father, you might want to keep it a secret if you are a big loving family. However, if there are no skeletons in your closet, you can share how you felt when your step son first came into your life. Stories can help you do justice to this.

 

Here’s a very short example

Dan, being a military brat, was in Hawaii until he was three years old. So, I didn’t get to meet him until then. I was able to lay eyes on him when he showed up in Arkansas with my wife with a pacifier in his mouth.

 

When I saw him, he was the most adorable little boy I had ever seen and more than anything, I wanted to snatch him up and give him the biggest hug ever.

 

Did you notice how I weaved in that story? Don’t you think this hilarious anecdote will perk up the ears of everyone at the wedding reception or rehearsal dinner night?  You be the judge.

 

Third, if you want to strike a sentimental tone, you can kick off with a love or marriage quote. Here are some good ones you can spiff up your wedding speech with.

 

• Nothing compares with joy of finding true love because once you do, your heart is complete.
• We don’t marry the person we can live with. But rather the person we can’t live without.
• A man becomes his best self when he starts the next chapter of his life with the lady his hearts truly beats for
• Love is not something you find. Love is something that finds you- Tony Robbins
• The greatest happiness in life is to love and be loved in return

 

Can you use any of those lines to come up with a very engaging introduction or you still need my help?

 

Ok, I am going to use the third quote to illustrate. Again, let’s see how we can make the best out of it.

 

A very wise man once said that a man becomes his best self when he starts the next chapter of his life with the lady his hearts truly beats for. That’s so true because I have never seen my son this happy. If you have any doubts, just look at the radiant joy in his eyes.

 

Ok, let’s move on to second part of our analysis: the body

 

How To Write The Body Of Your Wedding Speech For Your Step Son And His Bride

 

Let’s get started by looking at parts of the content of the body of Stephen’s speech so we can steer out writing ship to safe waters.

 

Here you go:

‘’ In a flash, our bundle of blessings grew up into a very lively and kind child who really loved being with his big sisters and looked out for them because he was such a thorn in the flesh of boys who picked on his sisters.

 

Once, I got a call at work from his mother frantically saying that he had been in the yard swinging his driver and his younger sister Amy…‘’

 

It’s fairly easy to write the body of the speech. 

 

To make this aspect of the writing process a breeze, there are a couple of ideas you can use to get it right.

 

First, you have to decide what speech style and tone you want to dwell on. So, please write down the effect you want your speech to achieve. Do you want to sound funny, sentimental or mushy, a narrative, rhythmic or even poetic?

 

I must emphasize that it is possible to combine two or more speech styles if you are truly gifted with words.

 

Second, you also have to decide on a story line. Starting from when your son first came into your life, please do a little brainstorming and come up with stories you think can help you put your stepfather of the groom speech toast together in a chronological order.

 

 

Questions like these can prove very useful:

• What was he like when he was a very little boy?

• What was he like when he was growing up?

• What behavior did he exhibit when he got to his teens? Please comment about his good side and never bring up the bad ones unless it has a funny twist to it or it ultimately helped him learn a valuable lesson that made him a much better person.

• You can also write about his accomplishments in school and beyond if has some connection with the kind of person he has grown into and if that will serve him well in his marriage.

• You can mention how you felt when he introduced his bride to you.

• Talk about the bride and say sincerely why you think she’s going to be an amazing wife and mom

Using all of that, you can now create a rough first draft which you can later rework and adjust.